Thread:Red Compassion, Red Love, Red Hate/@comment-5679384-20140425180842/@comment-5384369-20140501022409

Have you ever considered or tried contacting people that helps with family alcoholism or addiction? Honestly, from what you've told me, and even before that, what's happening isn't okay and it's not right. Children not only need, but deserve a childhood where they aren't oppressed by a parent's problems. It is seriously like, your job to be able to go to your parents about things like smoking and drinking and drugs and whatever else you encounter as you grow up.

I understand your hesitance to confront your father about this, believe me, but if he doesn't think it's a problem, make it a problem. Drinking constantly isn't to deal with stress. It's an addiction and in some circumstances, a disease.

I know it's unrealistic to tell your father to stop smoking or drinking completely, because sometimes that's exactly "safe", but you have to set limits on what you will and won't tolerate. It's not telling them what to do, just ensuring your own safety. And if you know that he's going to hide it from you, you have to take action, like getting help or leaving to stay somewhere else.

You shouldn't have to get used to seeing it. It's just not healthy to you mentally, emotionally, soulfully, or physically. I hate to say it, because first of all, you shouldn't have to go through all this stress. But if gets too far (meaning what you can handle, not what he needs, like if you can't stand to see him drinking in from of your little sister or smoking), you don't just deal with it. You have to deal with it and do something.