User blog comment:Auslly~Bobbie~Music/Talk Like Crazy!/@comment-24146210-20140809024408/@comment-5384369-20140809041718

Well, that's what shows are. They're supposed to exaggerate the emotions and characteristics of people to make it seem more "relatable" and shows are exactly that: shows. They aren't supposed to follow the "rules of life". When have you ever seen a show that has a bad ending of where the characters didn't end up accomplishing their goals?

Confidence is meant to be misplaced. That is seriously just life. You're emotions and heart and soul will probably be kicked and bounced around who knows how many times in your entire lifetime. And it may seem like your life has probably reached rock bottom, but trust me, it's not. There are going to be so many people who you can't entirely "figure out" and it'll go both ways.

And also: the idea of waiting for someone to come to you is normally just a cliché, highly unlikely to succeed in real life, and to a certain extent, anti-feminist (if it's in the context of a woman waiting for a man).

The thing is, shows are pretty much how people want life to work. They want to have someone who's shy and unconfident about themselves suddenly be thrown into a situation where they decide to take a leap of faith and it ends up working out and they love it. But life doesn't always work like that.

Confidence works in funny ways. But really, all it is, is about how you feel about yourself. When you really think about it, most of your actions are based on what other people may think about you. You want to wear certain clothes that look attractive, or you want to act a certain way to get noticed or to prevent embarrassment. The only way to be able to build confidence is to care about yourself, as selfish as it may sound. You have to be able to be okay with yourself mentally, emotionally, and soulfully before you can be okay with other people. You have to have a certain limit to how much you want other people to dictate your life.

I would like to think that we're naturally good and trustworthy people. And with that, means that we want to beloved and cared for in return. We want to be able to trust someone with our affections and expect for them to be returned, but sometimes it doesn't work out. And that's probably why it hurts so much when you break up with someone or someone doesn't return your feelings.

All in all, you have to be happy and confident with yourself, and only then, can you achieve true happiness and bliss. Because, if something happens involving other people, you'll always have yourself.