Thread:MacyZC55/@comment-11571704-20151122044621/@comment-5569148-20151128130648

Do not mix up terms. Moving on is not equal to stop crying over someone! That's what society taught us! Moving on is avoid doing what I wrote on my last message, the "feel hopeless, blame the world or a "supreme being" for taking them away and hurting me during the process, feel empty and keep that attitude until death knocks my door" part. Moving on is stopping THAT from happen, and adopting a positive mindset, similar to the "be thankful for having had them in my life, as part of my own being, knowing they'll still be there with me. (Because after all, they were part of my circumstances, which molded my way of thinking, and therefore who I am.)" part. You CAN do that. Saying you can't IS an excuse. We all can do pretty much whatever we want.

I won't tell you: "stop crying, your grandpa wouldn't like you to do so! He wants you to be happy!" because THAT'S bul*****. Our messed up society has created that to avoid people who grief. After all, let's be real here: who would like to stick up with someone who can't stop crying over their loved ones? No one! But that doesn't mean you must stop crying about it!

Once again, you ARE capable of adopting a positive mindset over your problem. It's up to you if you want to do so or not.