Board Thread:Social/@comment-4720436-20121202205009/@comment-5384369-20130228031647

@Jessie1010 -

I know that parents have told everyone this at leat 100 times, but I mean, c'mon, who actually listens to their parents? JK, guys, listen to your parents. But, this is one of those moments where you don't listen. Lie, lie, lie. If you really value this person as a friend, a white lie is not going to hurt anyone. It's like when girls ask if they look fat in a dress. They know that, even if they do, you are going to lie, just to spare her feelings, unless it really looks terrible.

Anyways, I have to remind you "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all". I know that when people hear it, they're like yeah, whatever, but seriously, it comes in handy. It saves a lot of people a lot of time. Be like Austin in Costumes & Courage, just write it down, just don't let someone like Dez hit the send button.

Sometimes, people just need some space. Just give him some space, that way he can sort out his feelings and the same with you. After a little while, explain, in the calmest manner, how you were feeling and why you said what you said. Hopefully he can understand. Also, when apologizing, don't just say "I'm sorry" that word practically has no meaning anymore. Try to think of something a little more deep, per se. Actually make it seem like you mean it, and you aren't just saying it because you feel obligated to.

Even though the fact that you called him fat will stay in his mind, you have to assure him that it was more in the spur of the moment, and it was mostly brought on by anger and that you regret what you said. There's no way that you could ever take back what you said. Sometimes apologizing is the only thing you can do.

Hope this helped.

Also, when you mentioned how the director picked on looks and stuff like that, I immediately thought of Singing in the Rain and Lina Lamont.