Board Thread:Social/@comment-4720436-20121202205009/@comment-4717855-20130228034016

Wow... I haven't been here in a while. And wow Matt, that's not a very good position to be in. -.- I've never really been in that position, so I'm just gonna hope my advice works.

Firstly, give him some space to think about it more. You both need to try thinking outside of your perspective- try to actually understand his view of things, and that may just help you when you both try to come to an agreement.

When you do go to talk about it, don't just say "I'm sorry". That's so cliche, so...vague, and even if your friend Carlos forgives you, he may not feel much better with such a generalized response. Tell him either two things:

1) It was just spur of the moment: you were feeling disappointment, anger, and bitterness at losing out on the role, and that just combined together to form something that wasn't entirely true. Don't flat out lie- you can't completely revert the past. You need to fix that mistake- tell him that your anger caused you to exaggarate what you said, that while he's not an anorexic stick, he's also not a fat marshmellow!

or

2) (This way is a lot harder to pull off) Tell him- so what? So what if he's fat? No matter how his body came to be that way, it wasn't just looks that got him there. He was just the best blend of The Baker in the opinion of the one choosing, and everyone has their flaws. For him, it's simply his genetic makeup- whether it's that his body is naturally wide or that he has a fast metabolism- so technically, that's not a flaw! That's just part of what was programmed into him, so it's not as bad as it may seem!

Hope this works... Been revising my book- it's amazing how much I'm fixing with it. :D